In Her Own Words
About Her
I guess I'm looking for someone to explore with journey with... and commit to. I have a wide range of interests and fairly unconventional tastes... not a pop culture slave, love art movies, good books, and beautiful interesting minds and things. Over the next few years, a balance between home life and a lot more travel is the ideal.
I can't promise to be uncomplicated, I'm a woman... Alive, able to compromise, slightly over-developed social conscience. I am sometimes too serious, but can be utterly goofy, though my humour leans to the dark side. I am pragmatic, but a dreamer. And a total sap for romance. It would be nice to have a soft, steady, stable set of arms to be wrapped in.
practical notes: there are certain realities to being a single parent, and it can be challenging to build a relationship when there is a child around. I'm not looking to be involved with someone who thinks I should be grateful that they will take a woman with a child into their lives. . . I'm financially independent, and happy with my own and my daughters company... If you are one of the many men who seem to think single mothers are easy prey (my male friends tell me all about this), kindly move on to the next profile.
I think its fairly easy to establish whether or not there's an attraction in the first few seconds of meeting. If there is, we've something to build on, if not, perhaps a new friend. I am not looking for a casual relationship.
Life is just richer. when you have someone. to share it with.
About Her Ideal Match
You're actually able to love and let down the walls.... not be too jaded and cynical by your past.... open enough to stick... discuss the red flags that might make you skittish.
I dont think I'm that picky. I dislike being bored, but am fairly easy-going, and as long as your life/style and mine could agree, and there was an attraction, I'd consider hope within reach. :)
You have the time, interest, energy and capacity to build a relationship, and you have reasonable moral fibre, and have dealt with, or are conscious of, your shit. - no players, control freaks, or I'm okay you're not okay types please.
You are ok looking, on the light vs heavy side physically. Maybe have a tat or two.
You've learnt from what's brought you here, and want to keep on learning but you don't take it all too seriously.. You know how to treat a woman. Or are willing to learn. You can compromise, are loyal, have a sense of humour. aren't too grumpy, even if you're over 45. And you must. Have a great sex drive. Helpful if you grasp that after the 'honeymoon phase' is over, building solid standing love is something that requires some level of effort....
You can tolerate, or welcome, the unconventional in me without it making you insecure. You are interested in art, food, - is widely read too much of an ask? and have some interest in travel, and the natural world. Oh, and you must not hate small children, dogs, rivers, and mountain walks. Or lying around doing very little on lazy days. Art movie, doccie fans, artists and academics are encouraged to apply within.
Coffee, perhaps a new friend, preferably someone to share the rest of my life with...
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About Her
Country of Origin: |
United Kingdom | |
Location: |
City Bowl (Unspecified Suburb), Cape Town, South Africa | |
Gender: |
Female | |
Age: |
52 | |
Star Sign: |
Gemini | |
Height: |
Ask me later | |
Body Type: |
Average | |
Looks: |
Attractive | |
Hair Colour: |
Dark Brown | |
Eye Colour: |
Blue | |
Ethnicity: |
White/Caucasian | |
Home Language: |
English | |
Other Languages: |
French | |
Religion: |
Buddhist / Taoist | |
Relationship Status: |
Divorced | |
Looking for: |
Activity partners; Friends; Open to possibilities; Long-term; Marriage | |
Have Children: |
Yes, living with me | |
Want Children: |
No | |
Daily Diet: |
Eat healthily | |
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker | |
Drinking: |
Occasional Drinker | |
Education: |
Postgraduate degree | |
Occupation: |
Artistic / Musical / Writer | |
Income: |
Enough |
About Her Ideal Match
Country of Origin: |
Anywhere in the World | ||
Location: |
Cape Town Metro (Western Cape, South Africa) | ||
Gender: |
Male | ||
Age Range: |
40 - 55 | ||
Star Sign: |
Any | ||
Height: |
160cm (5' 3.0") - 210cm (6' 10.7") or taller | ||
Body Type: |
Any | ||
Looks: |
Very Attractive; Above Average; Average; Attractive | ||
Hair Colour: |
Any | ||
Eye Colour: |
Any | ||
Has a Photo: |
Non-negotiable | ||
Ethnicity: |
Asian; Indian; Latino/Hispanic; Middle Eastern; White/Caucasian; Other | ||
Home Language: |
English; French; German; Italian; Spanish | ||
Other Languages: |
Any | ||
Religion: |
Agnostic; Atheist; Buddhist / Taoist; Jewish; Spiritual, but not religious; Sikh | ||
Relationship Status: |
Single; Divorced; Widowed | ||
Have Children: |
Any | ||
Want Children: |
Maybe | ||
Daily Diet: |
Eat most things; Eat healthily; Vegetarian | ||
Smoking: |
Non-Smoker; Occasional | ||
Drinking: |
Non-Drinker; Occasional Drinker | ||
Education: |
Some University / College; Technical Diploma; Associates degree; Bachelors degree; Postgraduate degree; PhD / Post Doctoral | ||
Occupation: |
Artistic / Musical / Writer; Executive / Management; Finance; Legal; Medical / Dental; Retired; Self-employed; Teacher / Professor; Technical / Science / Engineering; Other; Agriculture | ||
Income: |
Enough; Comfortable; Wealthy; Fat cat |
- Not important at all
- Slightly important
- Moderately important
- Decidedly important
- Non-negotiable
More About Her
Hair Style: |
Short; It has its moods |
Body Art: |
Pierced ears; A tattoo or two |
Sense of Humour: |
Dry |
Intelligence: |
Rocket Scientist |
Party Behaviour: |
An average mingler |
Personality Traits: |
Cautious; Daring; Easy going; Funny; Intelligent; Mild; Naive; Optimistic; Outgoing; Outrageous; Outspoken; Realistic; Shy; Silly; Stable |
Valued Qualities: |
Chemistry; Compassion; Contentment; Faithfulness; Friendliness; Honesty; Hope; Humility; Humour; Kindness; Moderation; Patience; Self-control; Sexiness; Tolerance |
Favourite Colour: |
Yellow |
Date Activities: |
A movie; A music concert; A picnic in a park; Dinner at a restaurant; Meeting for coffee; Meeting for drinks; Walking on the beach |
Music Preferences: |
Alternative; Blues; Classical; Dance / Disco; Folk; Jazz; Latin; New Age; Reggae; Rock; World |
Reading: |
I love it |
Books: |
Best-sellers; Crime; Fantasy; Fiction; Horror; Mystery; Sci-Fi |
TV Habits: |
I don't have a TV |
TV Shows: |
Documentaries; Movie Channels; Nature / Wildlife; News; Sci-Fi |
Movie Frequency: |
I wait for movies to come out on DVD or online. |
Movie Preferences: |
Action; Adult; Art Films; Comedy; Cult Classics; Documentary; Drama; Horror; Independent; Mystery; Romance; Sci-Fi; War; Westerns |
Interests: |
Board games; Card games; Cooking; Gardening; Healthy living; Painting; Photography; Pottery; Reading; Sculpting; Singing; Writing books; Writing poetry; Yoga |
Sport Involvement: |
Watching from the sidelines |
Sports: |
Backgammon; Camping; Dancesport; Hang- / Paragliding; Hiking; Horse Riding; Ice Skating; Rock climbing; Sailing; Scuba diving; Snorkeling; Surfing; Swimming; Walking; Water skiing; White water rafting |
Cooking: |
I quite like cooking |
Food: |
Chinese; French; German; Greek; Indian; Italian; Japanese; Seafood; South African; Sushi; Thai; Vietnamese |
Go Out to Eat: |
I eat out a few times a month |
Pace of Life: |
Manageable |
Time at Work: |
I work a standard 40 hour week |
Time Online: |
Once or twice a week |
Take Drugs: |
Not any more |
Family Size: |
I'm an only child |
Family Closeness: |
We're average |
Relationship Type: |
I'm just plain single |
Willing to Relocate: |
I'm unlikely to move |
Animals: |
I like animals |
Pets (Have): |
Cat(s); Dog(s); Rodent(s) |
Pets (Like): |
Horse(s) |
Turn-ons: |
Assertiveness; Dancing; Erotica; Intelligence; Showing affection in public; Skinny dipping; Tattoo(s) |
Turn-offs: |
Long hair; Sarcasm |
Work Aspirations: |
I already have my ideal job |
Religious Attendance: |
Never |
Dream Home: |
Beach house |
Politics: |
Very Liberal |
Retirement Plans: |
Exploring the 7 Wonders of the World |
Feelings about using Thunderbolt City South Africa: |
Curious; Jaded |
Honesty: |
Extremely |